So here I am sitting there minding my own business when I get tasked with planning our girl's bridal shower. "What," I said. "You heard me," my wife eyeballed me from over her glasses, "don't pretend like you didn't."
That is what I get for giving suggestions. They say no good deed, right?
Anyway. There I sat, tasked with planning one of the most unmasculine things, unprepared and a little lost. I didn't want to be the handing my daughter lingerie, that thought just made me shudder. After a bit of poking online though I saw they aren't all girly. You can make them how you like. So that made things a little bit better. It was a weight off my shoulders and a good chance to spend some time with my daughter. Since she will be out from under my roof when she get's married.
I settled on a maritime idea I saw some women on Flickr throwing for the bridal shower. While I am not quite sure what people eat for showers outside of cake, I am good on the grill, and I thought that grilled fish would go over well. And going with the nautical theme of the bridal shower I thought that it would be fitting.
I've also settled on bridal shower invitations to further tie the idea together. And I'm glad that there are a few options out there that my girl liked. Can't say she has bad taste either, but don't tell her I said that.
Sorry about the size there. I can't seem to get it to fit right, but I'd prefer a larger image that doesn't fit than a small jpg you can't see. It works for what its intended and that is what counts.
But any way, where was I?
Right. Bridal showers. One thing I think I'll admit here with the whole situation is that I'm having a good time. Who would have thought right? When my wife first placed the challenge, I was well - I don't know, a little skeptical if she really meant it. She did. And she has been completely hands off.
Thankfully my sister was willing to help and stepped in to take care of some of the odds and ends that I haven't got a clue about. I'd rather have her help me out with those bits than have the shower turn out a mess. And I think she has the same thoughts. She doesn't want her nieces party to go arye just because her brother's doing it wrong.
I've gotten most of it under control, that's what I tell myself. And I can only imagine what a stress planning the full blown wedding is like. My wife and future inlaws are that though so I get to enjoy the hands off approach there. If you'd have asked me a couple of months ago if I'd be throwing a bridal shower I would have looked at you like you were half mad. After all men aren't even supposed to come to them, why on earth would one be the host?
But then I'm modern and I am flexible, though when my girl suggested that we make it a couples bridal shower I drew the line. It was bad enough that I was setting the thing up. She didn't need to go and baby me and make it something it wasn't. No, I'm sticking to the roots as best I can. And Martha's got the ultimate checklist, I even caught my sister running her eyes over it a few times. So I can't be too far off base.
Am I nervous? No. Even though the guests will be knocking on the door before I know it I am pretty sure that I can handle anything they throw at me. If I can't I can always throw them out. Just kidding.
No, the bridal shower will go over fine. I spent the majority of my professional life delegating and getting things done. The only difference about my daughter's bridal shower and the job was that I didn't have to pay for the party.
I'm keeping in budget though, that is what they tell you on all those sites. They say "set a budget and stick to it." And that's what I am doing.
Now, before you think that I'm going and being stingy with my daughter, I've set a generous budget for her bridal shower. Why not, her wedding is going to cost me an arm and leg already.
In the end I look forward to being there. I know if doesn't sound like it. But tit is something that I never imagined I'd be doing. The shower is for the bride and her friends after all. Not here old man. But if I have the chance to take part in it, well I will. And I'll be damned if I don't enjoy myself, at least not a little.